I frequently get emails from people asking me how to make an upcoming career decision. The people who are the most perplexed and stuck are often the ones who have two or more good options in front of them, and they get bogged down in trying to make their choice. They may be weighing the pros and cons of different courses of study or they’re trying to choose between a number of compelling job offers.
There’s usually an argument to be made for choosing either option. Maybe one has better pay, but less flexibility. And the other has a sweet work from home potential, but does not offer as much compensation. So how do you choose?
Honor Your Gut Reaction
If you’re feeling confused about which choice to make then you’re probably overthinking it. Try to still your verbal mind by closing your eyes and watching your breath for a minute. Then bring your attention into your body. Take a baseline measurement of how you are currently physically feeling.
Next, bring one of your options fully into your mind. Note how you physically respond. Do you notice your shoulders tensing? Or do you sit up straight, with a slight smile? Write down the physical sensations you’re feeling. Repeat this procedure with your other options. Then go through your choices. Which option provided the most positive physical reading? Sometimes checking in with this gut reaction can be clarifying in making your decision.
Shift Your Focus
A lot of times people who have several good options in front of them get focused on figuring out the ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ choice. This is a recipe for a lot of frustration because you can’t ever completely know what a job will actually be like. You’ll usually be making your decision with partial information.
Shift your focus away from this potentially unsolvable problem of ‘what is the right choice?’. Instead, take control of your decision by focusing on your part of the equation. Whatever decision you make will also be impacted by your attitude and the way you engage with the job.
Since you’ve got good options in front of you go ahead and choose one, and decide to make the best of whatever choice you make. Go for it wholeheartedly.
I truly believe that there are many satisfying career possibilities available to each of us. We can be happy and fulfilled doing any number of things. There’s not a right answer. There’s just the choice you make, along with the decision to make the most of whatever you choose.
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alexandria evans says
hello my name is Alexandria Evans i’m 15 and stuck between two amazing career choices. i have no clue whether i want to be a vet or homicide detective i really need help!
Hi Alexandra, Try talking to people who are in the fields you are considering or getting a relevant internship to get more information on these career paths before making your choice. Good luck!
hi I am also stuck between two amazing paths, I’m 15 and I can’t decide between basketball and doing something with the brain like neurology, I try to choose one or the other but if I say “that’s it I’m doing something with the brain” then i’ll start to feel sad that i’ll never be able to pursue being a basketball player and vice versa.
Hi Im also 15 and have found myself in a dilemma in which I cannot choose between a career in medicine or a career that’s related to English e.g editors,authors, publishing and so on.
what a coincidence I struggle with the EXACT same problem! Have you already made up your mind?
Play basketball in college while you study neuroscience
That’s fantastic! I think the two could actually blend incredibly well together. Are you able to maintain both perhaps one takes precedence and the other becomes a side gig? Also consider the lifestyle each will provide you. Do you prefer one over the other? Good luck to you!
Well, Matt, basketball is a very difficult field to get into. More than 60% of people who want to be professional basketball players, don’t. Going into fields of the brain would also benefit, not just you, but others. Neurology, the study of the brain, could help save lives. Being a neurosurgeon yourself, you could be the one saving lives. I don’t want to tell you what to do, that’s entirely your choice, but I would say to chose the path that looks brightest, and go for with all you got.
Hello, I’m currently in between commercial real estate and my art. I paint watercolor, oil and do sculpture as well. I never believed I could make a living in the art worls until recently. I have bills so I work at a grocery store which I dont enjoy.
As far as commercial real estate, it would consume most of my time and energy but could reward me finacially. But everytime I think about it, it is not my passion, art is. I don’t think I can do both. I could struggle doing either to be honest, which is why I’m frozen. Thank you in advance for any help.
Kambra Mitchell says
Hi, I’m 15 years and I’m stuck between two careers. I really love soccer and it is definitely a passion, but I have wanted to be a veterinarian since I was in 1rst grade. Ever since 9th grade however, I have thought about how I don’t want to have a life without soccer. I’m really stuck. Can you help out?
Emily Eckert says
OMG!!! I’m 14 and I am stuck between those same two choices. I have no idea what to do either, not to mention the fact that my mom hates the idea of me being in law enforcement. I always said I wanted to be a vet because I love animals but I recently found the interest in homicide.
Sydney Hirsch says
Hi!! My name is Sydney. I am also 15. I am in my sophomore year of high school. I want to maybe start applying or thinking of applying for colleges next year. My two passions are fashion design and creative writing. I know they are SUPER different. I have wanted to be a fashion designer ever since I was little. I am taking advanced fashion classes at my high school which are great. I started thinking about pursuing the writing area last year. I just love the idea of coming my up with my own stories. The thing is, is I know I will be good at fashion but I don’t know if I’ll be any good at writing. I also don’t know if my passion for writing is just a phase for excitement in my own life. If I were to pursue fashion, I would have to live somewhere away from home which might be hard. The art schools are also really exspensive and idk if we can even afford it. Writing on the other hand has an amazing college that isn’t that expensive. I also could live wherever I wanted if I was an author. I feel like I could be missing something too if I did writing instead of fashion. I’m totally stuck. What do you think I should do?
Hello I am currently a college student about to earn my Associate degree but I feel stuck in exactly what I want to major in for my BA, I am stuck between two completely different career paths one is a career in Psychology and becoming a RBT which is to help autistic children with their behavior, or my other career path option is To BA in Human Resources and work in a corporate setting in the HR department I feel really stuck and I don’t know what to do.
If you get the RBA, you can continue a BS in a BCBA and write the care plans. A degree will own doors either way. I know several HR directors who fell into the role, without majoring in HR. Also, please note HR, looks out for a company’s interest first, not necessarily the employees. I was disappointed to find out a career in HR doesn’t support people like I thought.
Jae Kirrl says
Greetings. You may call me Jae. I am in Grade 10, and at a most terrible dilemma as to what to choose for my career. I call them the 6 P’s (because, oddly enough, all my career interests start with P): PHILOSOPHER, PHYSICIST, PROGRAMMER, PILOT, PSYCHOLOGIST, POLITICIAN.
I am most interested in Physicist, Software Engineer/Designer (which I called programmer for the sake of the P *_*), and Pilot. But, while Physicist and Software Engineer are at least somewhat similar, I have no idea whether I really want to be a pilot or not.
I ask you, Stranger, whose site I have only discovered today: should I go with my childhood wishes (physicist), or my new-found love of flight?
I will be going on my first “introductory flight” in May. I hope it will clear things up but what if they don’t? What if I still do not know what to choose?
All my life I have been too indecisive. It has even affected my schoolwork, when I cannot choose a topic for a project. Now, I cannot even choose a career to pursue.
I thought I knew. When I was younger, I always thought I’d go into Physics and Astronomy. The universe and its mysteries fascinated me—up until I got too far, and finally realized it was philosophy that was my true interest. But I can’t get a career as a /philosopher/. I’ll have to go into theoretical physics, and apparently that’s a terrible choice now–I don’t even know what area of physics I want to go into, should I at last choose physics.
Things would be so much simpler if I chose to be a pilot. But things are never simple for me. Not in my life.
I think it will help to take the intro flight you’ve described. You might also consider internships in the fields you’re thinking about. The more real world data points you gather around your interests, the better off you will be in making a decision.
Jessica Lewis says
Hi, I am a 20 year old second-year college student (junior by credits, though) at a small university in Kansas City known for its performing arts department. I was previously a double major in pre-physical therapy and musical theatre with plans to be a pediatric physical therapist, but recently made the decision that I would not be as happy being a physical therapist as I would in a career where music was a part of my life. So, I made the decision to drop the pre-physical therapy major and figure out the rest shortly after. However, I’m a little bit stuck now.
Right now, I am a musical theatre major, but I am on the fence as to whether to remain a musical theatre major or to switch to a vocal performance major. They are relatively similar, but vocal performance has much more emphasis on the technical intricacies of music, which I thoroughly enjoy and am good at, whereas the musical theatre degree focuses less on that (although still a considerable amount) and adds focus on acting and some technical theatre work, all of which I am enjoying getting to further develop and explore what I capable of within. I am straight down the middle on my decision, and everyone I talk to is with me in that, except for my advisor, who leans a little more strongly to vocal performance. However, this is balanced out by the fact that my vocal coach leans a little to musical theatre.
The difference in them is subtle, obviously, but could have a fairly significant impact on what I am able to do with my degree. So, what would help me is having a decision as to what I want my future career to be. However, I am straight down the fence between pursuing a career teaching vocal music on any level (I’m interested in elementary through post-secondary, as well as having an individual studio), and music therapy. Both have pretty equal pros and cons, and I would love both and be good at both. I’ve spoken at length to people in both fields, and it really hasn’t helped make my decision any easier, although it is more informed.
I’ve reached a point in my schooling where if I don’t make the decision relatively soon, I will have to be locked into what I continue in or change later and stay more than four years.
I am just stuck, and being a person who has planned out and prepared every aspect of my future since I was 12, I’m more than a little uncomfortable with this feeling of jumping off a cliff of sorts and hoping I learn to fly instead of falling to my death. So, I was wondering if you would be able to offer any advice on making a career decision, a major decision, or both.
Thank you for the thoughtful comment! It sounds like you have two good choices in front of you. Here are a couple things I’d recommend keeping in mind.
1) Your choice at this moment in your life is not a decision you will be locked into for the rest of your life. It is a starting point. Most people begin their career in one area and then make adjustments as they go along. So you’re really picking a starting place, not a 50+ year commitment. Hope that takes some pressure off.
2) It’s awesome that you’ve talked to people in the fields you are considering. Take this exploration one step further by looking for part time work in the fields you are thinking about. It doesn’t have to be the exact job you’re ultimately gunning for, but something that puts you closer to the real world experience of that work.
3) Whatever you choose is going to be influenced by your attitude, not just the choice you’ve made. Choose to make the best of whatever path you start on.
Good luck! You’re doing fine. 🙂
Thank you for this thoughtful response you provided to Jessica. It’s very helpful to me as I face a similar dilemma. It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of thinking what is now, will be forever. I love your comment about the decision being a starting point, and making adjustments as you go along. I especially value the reminder that whatever choice is made will be influenced by your attitude, not just the choice itself. I’ve been guilty of not having the best attitude for a less than ideal choice before.
Reading the sheer number of comments on this article over the years with people facing similar dilemmas help me feel that I’m not alone in trying to figure this out. Wishing the best to all those making tough decisions!
Alison C. says
Jaanisar, Thank you for your thoughtful reply! I’m so glad the comments and responses have been helpful to you. If you need anything further, please don’t hesitate to put in an application to work with us. I’d be happy to support you with finding a great career direction. Warmly, Alison
I enjoy dancing in my free time and I enjoy learning about forensic science. I have just been offered an amazing opportunity to do an apprenticeship in dance for a year when I leave college. I have also completed my UCAS application for University to study Forensic Science. I’ve had doubts to go to Uni because of the cost, and the fact that I may not like forensic science or won’t like to do it as a career. I don’t want to be in debt for uni fees if I don’t want to futher my career in forensic science. On the other hand dance is something I have wanted to do for a few years now but always decided last minute not to futher my education in dance, this was due to the industry being too competitive or the subject not being academic. I was thinking of taking a year out before going to uni but now I’ve been offered this apprenticeship I think I may go through the with it for the year and then apply to university to do Forensic Science after I’ve completed the apprenticship. Do you think it’s a good idea to do both, to see which one I would like to do as a long term career.
Congrats on the apprenticeship opportunity! Your plan sounds ok to me. Perhaps it would be helpful to also talk to people in the forensic science field while you are working in dance so that you can make a more informed decision when the year is up. Best of luck!
divya gupta says
I am also pursuing my Masters degree in forensic science. Five years back i was also confused whether to go for this subject or not. Then i finally made up my mind and took admission in Bachelor’s of forensic science. So, don’t stress your self by thinking whether this field will catch your interest or not, it will surely do, that i can assure…
In nutshell, i would suggest you to go for forensic sciences n opt for dance classes side by side..I hope it helps.
Thanks for sharing your story Divya!
Hi, my name is Liz and I’m stuck between two careers. For as long as I can remember, I always wanted to do something with the studies of how music affects people or something along those lines and law (court not enforcement). I either can do something I don’t know if I have the potential (law) to do or something that makes me happy but is less realistic. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
Hi Liz, Sorry to be slow in replying. It’s a matter of picking your personal priorities. What is most important to you- fulfillment or financial success? Everyone’s different, and these priorities can shift over time. No matter what, remember that any career path you pick is not going to be a life sentence. Start somewhere, and adjust as you go!
I’m a junior in high school and it’s that time of the year where I decide to pick my classes for my senior year. I am currently in a health science academy and throughout my past two years of high school I was so certain about the career I had in mind. I have taken a lot of health and science related classes and I’ve come to realize that I don’t get the greatest grades in these classes because I’ve lost interest in being in the medical field.
I’ve noticed that I get bored of things easily and I like to try to new things. My schedule for next year requires a pathway elective and most of the electives that were given as options are classes I’ve already taken. Unfortunately I can’t switch academy’s since it’s almost my last year of high school. Although I am still able to choose classes that are in other fields. I have been having a hard time between choosing a career that I’m passionate about, and a career that I am interested in and I feel that I would do great in this certain career. I like make up and hair and anything beauty/cosmetic related. I never get bored of it. I considered becoming a make up artist but they don’t get paid as well unless you work for a big brand/celeb/model rather than in a salon. So I thought pursuing a career in the business field that relates to cosmetics would be a good idea. I thought maybe I could work for L’oreal or a big make up company. The other career I had in mind was psychology. I wonder the way people think and why they are the way they are and how something could affect someone. I question a lot of things and I like listening to people’s stories and finding out how their mind works. It’s a topic that interests me. My gut is telling me make up. Business. My mind is telling me psychology. I like both im just not sure which to decide between.
Im afraid and worried about how I would make it into a company. I’m afraid that I won’t be able to succeed or do great in my classes. I’m afraid the careers I find interest in aren’t what I expected. I want to be able to shadow/talk to someone to get a better look into what I’m getting myself into. It’s just that I don’t have the greatest amount of time before I have to submit my picked classes for next year. If you could help me out that would be great! Thank you.
Hi Allison! You are putting a ton of unnecessary pressure on yourself. For many people, their college degree does not wind up reflecting where they eventually wind up in their career. I would hazard a guess that even fewer people have it all figured out by their senior year in high school. Relax. All of the ideas you’ve presented fall under the broad category of jobs that deal with people and behavior (vs. numbers or physical jobs or any of a lot of other fields). So pick one area, and make the best of your decision, while knowing that you can shift as you go through life. Your future career does not rest on your course decisions this year much at all.
I am Mark. I am 57, a 30 years experienced in market developments, I am a senior consultant. Just recently I lost all my money and also making some debts, in an investment, and this was caused mainly by a natural disaster in South East of Asia. Now I am back in my country with my wife and son as well. After the disaster, we just temporarily “parked” for 2 years in that part of Asia, and meanwhile my wife was working full time, I was working as I could to help to pay the bills, but in the same time I decided to go back in a career I did at a top level when I was 22 until 25 y/o, that was: filmmaker, writer! I used to love that job that time, but I quit it because at that time I became overwhelmed by it, I was not able to hold that pressure. I did keep going in that passion in other ways, but not professionally. That time I got many satisfactions though, and I studied too, as well for filmmaker and writing. After 3 years I was successful and well introduced at the top level (working I meant, I was not a celebrity). So after I quit, I went in my actual career. Back to the “parked time” I wrote a screenplay for a TV series of 12 hours. I proposed to around 25 different productions; follow ups? Few weak one, but basically I was turned down. But I knew how it’s so hard to get green light for a project, especially after 30 years to be out of the entertainment environment. I just put the screenplay aside at the moment, and I said I am back to my country (North America), and I am under social assistance and in the meantime I am rebuilding my consulting business. But……yes but…….I went in a supportive training and that training made me see reality of what I want to do……I really love writing and eventually producing films and entertainment as I did long time ago, and I believe I have talent for writing and even directing. BUT…I AM SCARE….. I know entertainment is “a cut throat” business, and I have to start from scratch. I know steps, I know even people, I know, I know…..I can write like a machine….even produce shorts (films) by my own……..but but but…..I have wife and a small son……….we need money to survive…………I FEEL A BIT LOCKED UP …..my new business is ready, as business consultant, to be started, even if slowly and careful…..but…… (thanks so much for any advise)
What’s in the lead for you Mark? Your passion or your desire for financial health? It’s a personal preference. Any decision you make will come with compromises. It’s a matter of picking the compromises you can live with. Best of luck!
I am 36 and looking to get a career to support my family. I am completely overwhelmed with choice. I am stuck between 3 train to be a dental nurse or veterinary tech or jump back into administration. First and last offer a safer job aspect but the first is a risk to get started due to finance and my little girls care. The last i don’t want to get bored so I am drawn to the second bute with the same problem as the first, getting going but the overall wage.
Hi Erika- You might be looking at this in more ‘black and white’ terms. Consider that you could try one thing while working towards another. For example, you could temporarily work one job, with the plan of going to school part time to build towards another. Hope that helps!
Shane Fernandes says
Hello I am in the 9th grade. I have trouble picking what I want to pursue when I grow up. It would either be stock trading (Business Studies/Finance), a physicist, an astronomer or an astrophysicist. I really liked stock trading but when I discovered quantum mechanics and space, I became fascinated. I have done stock trading for 3-4 years but now I am studying about space. What should I do? Can I study both? They both have an equal place and I really like both. Please help.
Interesting! It’s wonderful that you have several things that you’re interested in. At this age, I’d encourage you to explore each further. Put a particular emphasis on getting real world experience in working in each of these areas. It’s one thing to like learning a subject. It’s another thing to pursue it as a career. One may become more of a hobby interest, and that’s totally fine.
Hi, I’m in grade 8 and struggling to choose a career. Yes, I know I’m young but one of the careers I want to pursue I want to start right away. I’m stuck between, supermodel and international pop star.
It sounds like you have big dreams and ambitions! My thoughts are 1) Why do you want to pursue these professions? and 2) Try to learn more about what they entail and take small steps in the directions you’re interested in.
Hope that helps, and good luck!
Alexis R. Garcia - Ferrill says
Hello, I am Lexi I will be a freshman in a few months. I am stuck between two jobs, I have literally explored every job on earth until I settled for the following; an obstetrician (which may change during medical school) or a screenwriter/author (which may turn into also being a directer, producer, actor, etc.) I have setbacks for both though. The setback I have for the medical field is they work a lot, and I value spending time with my future kids, I worry that my kids will feel like I was never there for them and I was always working. Being a screenwriter is very difficult there are so many people out there trying to become one. To make one thing clear I am not in it for the money, these are true interests. I have “nursed” along my dog during her pregnancy in a calm state and form, whereas my parents were fighting and frantic, so I know that I am capable, plus we will have puppies again at one time or another. Writing has become so big in my life that I feel screenwriting has a chance for me. I have always been interested in the language arts class, but I never thought I should live off of being a writer, I figured it would be a hobby. Given the career I am interested in and my mother predicament I can’t visualize that happening. I wrote a short story that was going to be easier for people to read on short time yet send the same message of a chapter book that I will begin shortly, I will have it published into a homeschooler’s blog or pamphlet or something similar and My family and me are inquiring to have it published for anyone to read.
Should I just strengthen both of these areas as best as possible until I have a decision? To me both of these are risks, but I have the potential, determination, and support for both as well.
Hi Alexis- It sounds like you are trying to be thoughtful and prepared for your future. That’s an awesome instinct! I think at this stage keeping an eye on both interests would be informative. Prioritize finding and talking to people who are working in the fields you are considering, along with relevant real world experiences (like interning or volunteer work).
Lastly, pay attention to your life right now too! It sounds like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make the best possible decision for many years into the future. The more engaged you are with living a full life today, the better chance you’ll have for being capable of handling what comes down the pipeline later. It’s ok to not have it all figured out as a freshman. Really.
Wishing you well!
I’m trying to decide between psychologist/psychiatrist OR actor (I know acting is a huge risk but believe me I have connections to agents and producers)
The reason I need to decide is because I would need to study for all of the above. Even acting, agents require some sort of background even with the connections which I agree with.
I love the idea of psychology but acting is more rewarding and ‘easy going’ in terms of studying. Please help! 🙂
I’d recommend lengthening your view. It sounds like you’re focusing on the schooling, but schooling is going to be a short blip compared to your time actually working. So which type of work do you want to do? (And even then, consider that a big chunk of the work of acting is repeatedly applying for gigs.) Hope that helps! -Alison
hi my name is ben im 15 and im torn between 2 passions or dreams being a dj and producer or a football player im soo torn idk what to do
These are both lovely dreams. They’ll take a lot of work to bring to fruition. So assess if that is work you are willing to put in. If so, get to work. If not, music and/or sports might be something that you pursue as a hobby.
Laura Whitelock says
Hi, my names Laura and I’m 22 years old and currently working in what I thought was my dream job. I’m a learning mentor for children with autism in a popular mainstream school. But recently I am finding that I don’t enjoy the job as much as I used to and a few factors have led to me wanting to change career. I have qualifications in both childcare and animal management. I’ve been considering going back into working with animals, but Im unsure of what path to take because as much as I hate to admit it, money is important to me. I have looked at vet nurse training, although being an emotional person I’m not sure that I would be best suited to the job. I have also looked into other forms of nursing such as dental nursing which offers less stress and definite job security. In the UK it is also a well paying job.
In short, I am stuck for what to do.
Hi Laura, It sounds like you have some good ideas and are taking the time to assess your priorities. One thing I noticed as I read through your comment was that you seemed to be doing a lot of mental thinking about what to do next. Have you spoken to anyone in the fields you are considering? I would recommend that as a next step. Not only will you learn more information, you might get connected to a helpful resource or job prospect. Good luck!
I am 13 years old and I have a lot of time left to choose because I can use the same undergrad degree for two different career paths: paleontology- and pediatric medicine. I fell in love with these choices, both in science class. I learned about archaeology and enjoyed it- yet I didn’t want to pursue digging up ancient cities, but fossils. I liked this when I was in elementary school, and during about the 3rd grade. I then recently found I was very interested in medicine, when I get really bored in my 7th grade science class (it’s basically made up of moon phases and weather, and really boring) but anyways, we later this year had career day, and I chose a spot in one of the orthopedic surgeon’s sessions. I fell in love with it.. I knew all of the answers, and it was so exhilarating to learn about something so cool. I was very interested in the surgeries he performed, and I thought all of the models and things he brought were really cool. I have thought about other scientific paths too, but I don’t really have any interest in much else. So I feel that I should be ready to choose, Paleontology- or Medicine?
Anne, that’s great that you are already thinking about your career and noticing what you are drawn to at such a young age! You don’t have to be ready to choose right now. Please continue your explorations through extracurriculars and talking to people in these fields. And take some pressure off of yourself. Career paths rarely follow a perfectly straight line.
Hello maam, please reply to this as soon as possible because i don’t have much time to make my decision. I am from india and i had completed my +2 level studies last year in commerce stream. I am seriously confused between so many career options and i am unable to decide on one. I have always been bad at making quick and important decisions because i tend to overthink a lot all the time. Due to this indecisiveness and lack of career information, i tend to get influenced by my friend’s recommendations. I had decided on a career in law or psychology based on 2 different friend’s suggestion because i had the skills and interest in both of them. I gave 2 different entrance exams for law(the most important ones in my country) but couldn’t crack into a good college. Also i am having second thoughts about psychology too because i made it an option on my friend’s recommendation and careers in psychology in india is insecure and rough. Also i doubt if i have the required skils for it. recently i visited a counsellor in a different city who recommended me completely different carreers,i.e, financial management or project management or media journalism or mass communication. I had never wanted to get into a career of busines from the start but the counsellor said i had the skills for it. I am more confused than ever and idk what i should pursue and what i shouldn’t pursue, plus i am short on time. please help me.
Unfortunately, I do not have a magic answer for you. Whatever you pick is a starting point. Try to make the best of it, and allow it to evolve over time as you get to know yourself and your career desires more clearly.
Hi, I have always wanted to work in the health sector and work with children. Therefore pediatrics was my all time goal but I have recently discovered how well I do in the area of marketing and how much I enjoy it. I am very stuck. Both have their pros and cons; a medicine degree would be very rewarding but the marketing degree would be easier to achieve and would be in the workplace earlier.
High school student
Hi Amelia! Given that you’re still in high school, I’d recommend that you try to find ways to get closer to the day to day work life of each profession. Internships would be a great idea. Good luck!
Hi there.My name is Nikki and I’m 17 years old.
I’m stuck betwween two of the most beneficial jobs.being a teacher or a Cardiologist…
The gut reaction you’ve mentioned did not work beacuse of an overthinker person I am.My childhood ideal job was to heal people’s heart(cardiologist) but then after some issues my dad who is a teacher tried to convince me into becoming a teacher beacuse apparently it’s way easier than studying in surgery field.now I’m pretty good at tutoring and I love biology(my grades show it all) and now I really don’t know which one to choose.
Please let me know what you think.
Try considering what is most important to you in these three areas: fulfillment, financial health, and personal time/ well-being. If you had to pick one to be in the lead, what would it be? Once you know, I recommend doing some research into which of these jobs matches up with what you most want from your career path.
Hope that helps!
I am currently doing an undergrad degree in physiology and management. I am stuck between whether to do teaching or medicine. My mother has always wanted me to go into medicine, and I have always been good at science because of an interest and being a hardworking individual. My natural talents is in the arts, but this is more of a hobby than a career interest. I like the idea of medicine because its challenging on all levels and more interesting to me. However I am not as passionate about it as other fellow people I know who do medicine. I also dont like the idea of lots of stress, working hours etc… and I feel it would consume me. I have recently found teaching as a good option. I would become a science teacher in Biology. Im afraid that it will become to monotonous for me, but at the same time like the idea of working in a school with children and helping them in many different ways. Im also more family minded, I want time to raise children and have a family, have holidays etc… I know that this is possible with both but very confused which pathway to take.
It’s great that you are so clear on they lifestyle that you want in your future from your career. From the brief bit that you, it sounds like being a teacher is a better fit in terms of the personal time that you are craving. Just my two cents from the little I know of your situation. Going into medicine is a pretty long and expensive initial commitment, so if you’re not sure, you may want to postpone it until you have more confidence in that choice.
Greetings ! My name is diya . Im currently working in this retail company for almost a year. I find myself really not into my job & very opposite from what my passion is. Somehow i earn quite much that keeps me going . Recently, i met an old man who happens to be a very rich famous writer. We met several times talk abt o many things. Now he offered me to learn from him as much as he can bcs he said he might be leaving soon. Yknow, my gut say i should go for it but i still havent answer him. What should i do .. pls advice
Alison C. says
Hi Diya, I’m not totally clear on your question or situation. In the most benign of worlds mentors are a good thing. I’m not sure if that is what you’re describing though. Please take care, Alison
Hi there! I’m a 25 year old stay at home mom of 3 my oldest is 3. I know I would like to work but I want it to be really worth it. I’m very insecure about my skills since I’ve been in and out of basic jobs for years now. So I’m looking to go to school for something quick that gives me options. I love the beauty industry, obsessed with new trends, specifically esthetician work or nail tech. Then there’s the healthcare field as in respitory tech, cardiology tech all require asscociates degrees and I’m not sure if I want to spend that much time in school but I like the idea of making $50k. A very new option with the tech industry has been brought up as a front end developer or web designer but I have little confidence with computers but again I like the idea of higher pay. I think the idea of higher pay makes me feel like the career would be worth it since it takes time away from my kids. I know successful people who make well over $50k in beauty, I think I’m just afraid of paying $10-$15k and not being good enough. Any advice is appreciated!! Thanks
Alison C. says
Hi Kiryssa, Good for you on working to pursue a career path! It’s very common for people who have been out of the workforce for a bit to feel less confident, so know that you’re not alone there. Is there a smaller step you could take to try out these different areas before making the investment? That way you could see what you were most interested in and adept at. Hope that helps! Alison
Hi! I’m in my senior year in high school and I am stuck between two of my dream jobs: Ethology and Egyptology. I know what colleges i’m going to on both career paths and I have decided to get a phd. I would enjoy doing both, but because of college tuition, I can only choose one. Which path should I take?
Alison C. says
Hi Megan, Please use college as a time to learn more about each of these fields and the related job prospects. You’ll be able to make a better decision with more information. Warmly, Alison
I am a 17 year old student. I used to know what I wanted to do all the time when I was a kid but the last couple of years I have been really indecisive. I’ve thought about a lot of career options and haven’t been able to decide on one. I became interested in acting/film/writing when I was 13 years old and I talked about it to my parents but they do not want me to go into that field. I recently became interested in surgery (because of watching Grey’s Anatomy and I know the show isn’t like real life). But I’ve always had an interest in the sciences as well (and I am good at them)… so now I have a dilemma:
– go into film/acting/writing which I really like, but I’m not sure I am good enough or if I can do it. My friends always tell me I’m very creative and I know I was as a kid, but I don’t know if I am good enough for that. I’m afraid of going into this field because it is not exactly a stable and secure job and so basically I am afraid of failure.
– go into medicine. If I do go into medicine, I want to be a surgeon because it is exciting (I don’t want to just work at a clinic I find that boring). But as everyone knows, surgery is really hard and you have to be 100% committed to it and absolutely love it.
My main priority in life is to not have a boring life. I want to live an exciting life and do a job that I absolutely love. I do not care if my parents or anyone else disagree with my dream, so that is not my main concern here. My main concern is choosing between the two, which both have pros and cons…
-> Pros: I get to create whatever world I want, or be different characters (which I love). I get to help people escape from reality for a little while with my work and can send the world messages full of hope and positiveness which I know everyone needs.
-> Cons: The industry is not secure and stable and I could end up a “starving artist” (afraid of failure)
-> Pros: prestige, I will be saving lives (how I will be helping people), I like biology class and really enjoyed dissecting.
-> Cons: Getting accepted into university and med school is very hard (I don’t know if I can do it). You have to be 100% committed to it (won’t have time to do other things that I love). And I am not a huge fan of chemistry.
I really don’r know which one to choose and I have to make a decision very very soon. Please help me.
P.S. I do not really care about being really rich. As long as i am not struggling to pay for food, I am satisfied.
Alison C. says
Hi Nina, This may be an annoying response, but I’m not sure those are your only two options. It sounds like you enjoy creative work. There are many types of creative work in the world that are more stable than acting. Please poke around on insidejobs.com and see if any of those types of jobs resonate with you. And remember that you still have plenty of time to get this sorted out. Good luck! Alison
I am torn between two things that I enjoy. I’ve wanted to be a doctor since I was young, however my first year of college freaked me out and I made a sudden career change and got my cosmetology license. I’ve been offered an amazing job at an amazing salon, however 3 years later there is this part of me that is thinking I made the wrong decision in quitting school. The thought of going back to school is scary, but so is the thought of making the wrong choice and not realizing it until it is too late. Do I take the job that is guaranteed or put myself back out there and go back to school, and hope that I make it through med school.
Alison C. says
Hey Danielle, Please take this with a grain of salt, since I only know you through a few sentences, but my sense is that fear is playing a big role in your decision. See if you can figure out some strategies to make going back to school less scary and more manageable. My personal thought is to go towards things that are scary and uncomfortable (if they relate to something that you actually want). Best of luck! Alison
Hanna Mae says
Hello! I am on my 11th Grade currently taking Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics in my school. I have decided that I would be a civil engineer but this year, I am really loving my Science class. And I love those terms that are difficult to memorize. I love how things process in Science. So my inner Future Biologist comes again. (I planned to take BS Biology when I was in Junior High). BUT I also want to build houses, buildings, etc. I also love geometry, solving problems, etc. Though I am not relatively best in our Math class. Just average. But in Science, sure, I am above average. But anyway! This is my HUGE problem now! I can’t decide which course I am taking two years from now!
If I took Biology, I would enjoy my subjects well. But I don’t think I would love my job because I hate lab works.
If I took Civil Engineering, I don’t think I can enjoy my subjects because Math subjects in Engineering are MONSTERS! I only do simple Math! But in terms of job, I can say I would enjoy it.
Please help me with this guys. Thank you!
PS. I hope you did get my point. I’m lame at expressing my thoughts.
Alison C. says
Hi Hanna, I followed your question. It’s definitely worthwhile to look beyond the education and into the workforce. From what I read it seems that you have a hunch about what the day-to-day in the different fields would look like. I recommend talking to people in these fields to get an even clearer picture. I think that will help with your decision. Wishing you well! Alison
Harshitha Challa says
Hi, I am currently doing an under graduation (B.E Computer Science). I am very much interested in taking up game programming and wish to do MS with specialization in game development. But this field is not very welcoming for women and there are issues like no job security, less pay, long work hours etc.. So, a comfortable option for me would be a specialization in Big Data or something similar to it (which would involve intense programming like game development) which will provide better facilities and a better pay. I am confused if I have to follow my passion and end up struggling or if I should give it up and choose something else as my main career and dedicate my free time to my passion. Now is the crucial time for me to decide as I need to build my portfolio and start doing internships. But with this confusion, I am just stuck with zero progress. Please help me out.
Alison C. says
Hi Harshitha! I think it comes down to what you are willing to put up with. If you don’t mind enduring the hardships you’re perceiving with the gaming route, then it could be worth a shot. (Nothing says you couldn’t change your mind later.) If those issues are things you’d rather not go through, then pursuing your passion on the side seems like a good idea. Good luck! Alison
Hi, I’m currently still in high school, and I’m completely stuck on a career decision. I’ve mostly narrowed down my options to two main career groups, but they’re very different: music and politics/government. One very large part of me wants to be a music producer. I’ve been writing and producing for about a year now, and it’s something that i love to do. However, I have a lot of doubts about going in that direction. Right now, I have no way of knowing if my songs are actually good, and if it’s worth going after. My friends tell me that they are really good, but i don’t want to fully believe them. Also, there is no set salary for a producer (generally), and that really bothers me. You only make money when you have a project to work on.
My other option, which is something in government or politics, is a steadily paying job, which i like. I don’t know exactly what job I would go for in this field yet. I know that I’m interested in policy and national security, but not what specific job. I’m also extremely passionate when it comes to discussing politics and policies.
I could see myself doing either one of these careers, but i have absolutely no idea which choice is best for me.
Alison C. says
Hi Sam, What if you changed the OR to an AND? If you don’t enjoy the risk inherent in being a full-time music producer, then perhaps it is something to pursue part time. Best, Alison
I am Megha Ambalia. I am currently in 11th grade. I am confused between two career choices.(1) architecture and (2) any field in biology(other than medicine!). I am pretty good with my academic scores and can do well in bio related feilds well.. But i am really interested in art and creative work. Additionally im familiar with architectural courses because I’ve allready seen one of my sister do it. My family is insisting me on going for biology fields as they find these fields more secure in the future.
So that is where i am exactly confused. Please let me know what you feel. It shall help me a lot
Alison C. says
Hi Megha, I’m curious about which path you would be most engaged with. If you choose to go the biology direction and are resentful and uninterested the entire time, then even a secure path could turn out to be problematic. If you can approach either with a good attitude, then this is less of an issue. Wishing you well! Alison
This is actually my first time ever posting on anything for advice so it must be a big deal to me.
I have two main thoughts of direction which are causing me to be locked in between.
I’m deliberating whether to move into biological based career since I just finished a biomedical science undergraduate degree at the age of 29. I did this degree as I love learning about the anatomy and physiology. I know I don’t want to work in a lab and can’t seem to decide where to take it. I did a dentistry placement and loved it but don’t want to run my own dentistry business and think information I’ve read about it has now put me off.
Next thing is that I work for the NHS in mental health going from support work to admin. Preferring the admin as I’m just not that fussed about caring for people. I don’t think I should stay doing this job but could easily coast through it. I don’t want to coast.
The most difficult and ingrained part of me is creative. I used to act, produce and write when I was growing up right through to early 20s. I tried for a while to get my work commissioned but gave up quickly. I worry that I don’t have the integrity to follow through with my ideas. I do believe in my work though in writing.
My closest friends and family say they see me as creative but I feel like I should take a stable route as I give up easily without specific routes such as studying for vocations.
Unfortunately I think this dilemma has taken its toll and left me feeling disheartened and lost. I feel fickle and am desperate for clarity.
In summary I feel as though I should take a career in biological anatomical science though I don’t know what exactly. But at least the wage would be steady and hopefully good. Or go for the writing and see what happens. I have difficulty knowing what my limitations are and also capabilities.
I’ve been urged to contact professionals in these industries and ask for advice and insights into their professions but eventually I even gave up doing this.
Your thoughts would be immensely helpful.
Alison C. says
And welcome to the world of online commenting! 😉
Based on what you wrote, I tend to agree that a stable role with structure would be a better fit for you at this point in your life. The NHS job or a biological science job could do nicely. You could do this AND work on your writing. More than that, I think you need to work on your follow-through and capacity for rejection. (Because these skills go hand in hand with success in creative fields.) I think jumping straight to writing right now without having those skills to back you up would be setting you up for failure. But, you can get better and better at finishing projects. You can learn to treat rejection as a positive sign (that you tried). And you can grown in your capacity.
I don’t know where you’ll be once those skills are more solidly in your wheelhouse, but I think right now that’s where to put your attention.
Hope that helps! Feel free to sign up for our Step-by-Step Career Change E-Course as a further support.
Hello! My name is Alexis. I am 18 and in my first year of college. I know I have time to figure out what I want to major in, however, I’ve always loved working towards things so I’d really love to know. For a while now I have planned on majoring in marine biology because I have so much interest in it. It is my passion, but I know that if I become a marine biologist odds are I will travel a lot and won’t be able to see my husband much plus having kids would be rough. Should I stick to it because I love it or should I consider a different career path that I like such as psychology?
Alison C. says
Hi Alexis, I’d recommend talking to people in each of the fields you are considering to get a better understanding of the day-to-day that is involved. It can take some “oomph” and courage to do this for many people, but it really is a great strategy for making a more educated decision. Best of luck! Alison
I’ve been conflicted about my career/major choice for a really long time now. I’m a junior in high school and next year I’m going to have to make a decision about what I’m going to do with my life, and I can’t pick! I absolutely love art history and I’m taking AP art history at the moment. I’ve thought about being an art curator because I would seriously love being around art all day and just dealing with it in general. But I also have an interest in psychology and think it would would be incredible to be a forensic psychologist. Then there’s the medical field, which seems to be the most practical choice. I thibk anisthesiology would be a great career choice. As you can see I’m completely stuck!!! I have no idea which to choose. Help!
Alison C. says
Hi Melissa, Sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling so stuck! I’d recommend finding internships or part-time jobs in the areas you are considering to get a better sense of what they actually entail. This will help to inform your choice. Also, please remember that careers are not a life sentence. Many people have several different paths that they take over their lifetime. Hopefully remembering that will take some of the pressure off. Wishing you well! Alison
i’m currently in grade 12 and will be applying to colleges soon. I’m so stuck on what I wsnt to go in for though, my two choices are Child and Youth working and Tourism to become a travel agent. I love the idea of working with little kids and being able to help them and talk to them but i also love travel and i love geography and history. I’m so stuck on what one to go in for.
Alison C. says
Hey Jade, It’s great that you have some ideas to get started with! As I’ve written previously, the more real world information you can get about the potential careers you’re considering, the better. This includes informational interviewing, job shadowing, and work experience. Career decisions are things that we need to learn our way through, and they cannot be completely solved in our heads. Good luck! Alison
Hi! My names Ali im in the 9th grade. For the longest time ive been deciding between to career paths and for school we have to decide quickly for our 4 year plan. Iv’e been stuck between marine vet and a pediatrician i love both marine animals and kids as well as helping people and creatures. Iv’e read some of the comments and unfortunately i live in a very small town and cant speak to anyone in either of those fields. Do you have any other suggestions to help me decide?
Alison C. says
Yes indeed Ali! I doubt that we live in the same place, but it appears we’re communicating. Don’t let location be a barrier to reaching out to people. You can just send a polite email explaining you’re a student considering different career options and would love to learn from someone with real world experience. You can ask some questions over email or ask for a brief phone call. I know it’s a little uncomfortable to reach out to someone you don’t know, but people are generally happy to help, particularly when students ask for perspective. Good luck!
Hello! I hope you’re still answering questions, because i’ve ran into a crisis. I have 25 credit hours completed, and next semester I’ll only be completing 10, but this means I’m almost a college sophomore! Which is great, but I wanna change my major from IT (which was a place holder while I was duel enrolled) to either an Associates in Occupational Therapy Assistant or Bachelor’s in Business Administration with a concentration in Accounting. When I think about either I get butterflies out of excitement for each option. Two of the many careers I’ve hopped around when I was growing up (I have many interests!). And sorry for the long introduction, but here’s my dilemma. I’m leaning more towards becoming an occupational therapy assistant (OTA) in regards to interest, but I dont have much money. I have a wonderful full ride scholarship for tuition, but it doesn’t cover fees, which will be estimated to be about $5000 over two years. There will also be a lot of traveling, but I don’t have a car. I would also have to take summer classes which my scholarship won’t cover. I only make $280 in 4 weeks. These payments aren’t exactly something I can cover, and I’d rather not go into debt, that’s why I’ve studied so hard to get this scholarship. The benefits to going into accounting are that I still enjoy this subject, and I would have more career options, but I’t would take longer for me to enter the workforce and start to make money. So I guess the question is, should I spend all the extra money and be away from my loved ones and home on and off for about 4 months when I already have such little money and don’t have transportation for a career I like a lot more. Or, should I be an account, go to school for longer. Because in the end I’d like either career, I just feel as if being an OTA is something I’m passionate about, but it’s going completely against what I’ve been aiming for, a debt free college.
Alison C. says
I don’t have a perfect answer for you, but I have two observations. It appears you’re putting a lot of emphasis on the short term impact of your decisions, rather than the long term impact of your career choice. It’s probably hard to see from where you’re standing, but a few years in school pales in comparison to the decades you’ll be in the workforce. I’d recommend keeping an eye on what will set you up for success in the long term. Secondly, I notice a lot of black and white thinking. You’ve noted it’s either this or that. But what if you could pick an option you like and graduate debt free? There are probably some gray areas that you’re missing because you’re framing your question in terms of picking between absolutes instead of noting what you really want and trying to figure out how to get it.
Hope that helps!
Brinda gupta says
I am curently a second year student of B.com(hons) ( age 20yrs) from the most reputed college of India, I am in a dilemma as to the choice of my career.
I have two choices, 1) MBA in any field 2) Retail designing.
I have always had a knack towards designing, but due to the good number of marks I score I feel I can even opt for MBA.
I want to support my family as soon as I can, I am clear on the part that retail designing will give me satisfaction but also know that I may not be able to earn faster, As far as MBA is concerned I know it will offer me good amounts in the very first stage unlike retail designing. Please please help me clear the confusion.
Hi, I am from India. I am 18.
I have been stuck bad between two career options.
The first one is modeling and the second one is full time MBA.
The second option would give me lifetime security. But I feel that modeling something I am made for, something I am really good at.
In India, modeling is like the less traveled road. So I am not sure where it will take me. Nobody knows. I can’t chose between being practical or chasing my passion. Need help!
Chase your passion.
John Carter says
I was deeply passionate about medicine in my life and my only aim in life was to become a successful doctor. I was very good at biology in,low in chemistry and average in physics.I have applied to Medical schools in 2016 but was not accepted to it because of my poor grades in senior years of high school.I was very did hearted of this and was depressed a lot.After that I applied to another local university which grants admission on your high school percentages in their respective departments and got accepted to the BS in commerce program.I have never studied commerce before in my life because I was a Pre Medical student in my high school and was deeply shocked when I got accepted to this program as it was not my cup of tea.Finally I accepted the reality and took admission there.After going for a week I realized that I am not very much interested in this field as all the subjects are new to me I’ve never thought of studying it in my life.Now I am confused that which field should I choose I am also worried that If I choose Medicine as my career I have to devote my precious time and money to study it and it gives you a better lifestyle I mean in terms of money and luxuries after a decade or two which I cannot wait for.But I still love to study medical and its related fields.What should I choose should I continue to study Commerce or should I give another try this year for MCAT.
Hi! I really can’t decide between two careers: Spanish and french teacher OR translator. I have a passion for foreign languages but I just can’t choose
I also love helping people. In class, I’m always explaining to other people who don’t understand. I’m really patient but I’m kinda shy. SO i dont know which career to choose
Tanmay Sharma says
Hey!nice post. Hope you are still answering questions, if so please advise me. I love art and I am drawing ever since I was a child. I’m 16 and just after 2 years I would have to decide in which field I would have to stiudyu in college. I not only love drawing but I’m also passionate about it. And on the other hand is coding and programming. Since my childhood I have loved working on computers and working with softwares and as a child I was curios about how programs and softwares are created and I still spend quite a lot of time learning various programming languages. It’s not just the money that I have put in the art supplies , I just always wanted to do something creative in life, though I also write???? and I’m working on a novel. So actually my mind is towards being a programmer but art has still pretty occupied my mind. Would be very grateful if you reply. Thanks!
Hi Ms. Alison! I badly need a help. I hope you’ll still answering.
I am from Philippines. I was scheduled to interview by a CEO of a start-up company, but I have to wait for a month for the scheduled interview because the CEO will came from US. It is a home based job and offers a huge salary (based on their post). Yesterday morning, a CEO emailed me if I’ll pursue my interview schedule on next month and I answered, yes.
On the same day,afternoon, other company called me and they said that I was passed their final interview. They discussed their offer and they gave me 2days for me to think about their offer. The second company is far from my home but it is stable, offers a good benefit and salary but not too high compare the first one.
I am confused right now if I’ll pursue my interview with the CEO. I am thinking that it was a start up company, it is my advantage to promote cause’ I am one of the pioneer employees. I am also a little bit shy because I have already gave a yes for the scheduled interview by the CEO. But the problem is, there’s no guaranteed that I’ll pass it.
I have 2 days to think and it gave me anxiety. If I’ll pursue my interview with the CEO, I’ll loose the 2nd company. I’ll regret it
and if I’ll accept the 2nd company, I also regret if I’ll miss the chance of being on the pioneer and homebased employee.
I’m confused 🙁
Hope you’ll answer.
Hey ma’am! I have 2 to 3 career options in front of me and I am so very confused… I am pursueing BA (hons) economics and I am in 2 year of my graduation…I wanted to choose CA as my career option but it seems difficult for me to pursue CA as it is completely different from my graduation course… Other options I have are banking and teaching line but I dont have much interest in teaching…. Please suggest me with best career option… Thank you
Irina Mishra says
Hello mam I am Irina and currently preparing for medical entrance exam. But as a backup I have 2 careers in my mind and I m not able to decide among them..they are clinical dietitian and neuropsychologist. I have interest in both but can’t decide one..can u pls help.
Hi I’m Katie, I am a almost 16 years old. I’ve been thinking about my career choices a lot lately because I need to have some idea so I can pick my classes for next year. I love to write but I know I can’t make any money at that. So I’m trying to choose between a career in law of some sort or psychology. I’m not sure if I’m cut out to be a psychologist but I want to find the career that will make me happy but is realistic as well. I feel like I could make a difference in both choices which is my main goal in whatever career I choose. I would just love some advice as to how I can make the decision a little more clear.
Hello, im Jane and im 22 years old.
I am majoring in English and getting my license degreen this year. Since ive started majoring in English, I wanted to be a teacher of English at university. But I still have to get my masters and then PhD degree to accomplish that.
However, this year I started considering becoming a flight attendant, specifically for Emirates airline. I have many worries about this job. Being a teacher is too ordinary and thats my comfort zone. Im an introvert but I want to change and challenge myself yet I am worried if im choosing the wrong choice..
Desiree Rondina says
Hi, good day! Just call me Des, 24 yrs old, registered psychometrician from the Philippines .
I am really confuse of what to choose between passion to practicality.
I am now hired as an Admin Assistant here in Cebu which is just 10 mins away from where i live. I am not yet starting to this job because i am still processing my other requirements. Now, a friend of mine who owns a clinic here in cebu offered me a job as a psychometrician. I love this stuff-being a psychometrician. After the result of the board exam, i really looked for some clinics where i can practice my passion, but unfortunately i wasn’t able to find since there are only few services offered here in the Philippines. So i went searching for hr and admin positions since it is more convenient because alot of companies offered these jobs. But right now i am being offered with a job a really want. The sad thing is that i got a higher compensation of being an admin assistant compared to being a psychometrician. I wanted to save money because i want to have my own savings account for future purposes.
Please help me in choosing which path to go . I am really confused and frustrated.
Kapil Khandale says
I am kapil and I’m 24 years old,
I’m thankful that I have found someone who can understand the stuck feelings of people.
I am also from one of them.
I’m also stuck frustrated between choosing a perfect career path for me. One is Dj and Music producer and another one is Acting.
Recently I have enrolled for the music production online course.
But sometimes somewhere I feel like am I going in the right direction and decision, because I’ll at least need 5-6 years for becoming successful in music and Dj field, so I think will I get too late and too old for achieving career in acting. Sometimes I think that should I go for a acting theater or drama course as co curriculum for sharpening my skills etc I keep thinking between these two and end up saying that lets see let it happen whatever it wants to.
And I think that should I go for acting first or music production and dj.
I keep thinking about these two literally everyday really and badly in need of a good help. I don’t understand what should I go for first what should I do and how should I deal with this by catching something one from those two careers. Please help.
Hello, I’m Hany and I’m 21 years old. I just finished college last year with a degree of BS Biology. In the University I studied is where I finished my High School as well. Before entering college I have decided and realized that I wanted to be a doctor. Psychology was what I wanted to take, because I wanted to be a psychologist here, however odds are in not my favor; there were no slots left, so I had to take another course. My teachers in High School advised me that if I really want to be a doctor, taking Biology as a major will be the best choice. So I did. As I get closer to graduating, I slowly realized that I wanted to be a researcher. You see, Biology molded me as a researcher and not as a medical doctor. Although, in my heart I still want to be a medical doctor. Ii hard a hard time choosing between Archaeology and Medicine, but since I was peer pressured, I went with the flow. I actually took medical school, but I really had a hard time. It was my first time that I was really pushed to my limits and made me feel giving up everything. I came to the point that I wanted to stop already. I failed my major subjects actually, but trust me I really did my best. After the semester, I took the break I needed. I’m on break right now. Before, I have decided to pursue both paths: Archaeology and Medicine, however, I have to decide which one to take first. I actually have decided to take Medicine first because it’s a very long road, then afterwards I will take Archaeology. I applied to a medical school, I got accepted. I applied to the only University offering Archaeology and I’m still waiting for the day of Interview, which will be next month. What’s giving me a hard time right now is the medical school I applied to, it is asking for me to make a reservation already or just enroll next month as well. I am torn in between of my two big dreams. I don’t know if I stated everything clear. I really like both careers but I’m just really not sure which one to take…first. Please help me.
barun shah says
Hi my Name is BARUN i am so confused i Want to be a cricket player and programmer or related to IT Any thing …………. But i want to chose one please help me
Recently I’ve been struggling with the career path I want to take. I decided I want to be a fighter pilot a little while ago and I was so into it. I thought there was no way I’d change my mind. And then I started to fall in love with neurosurgery. I find both so exhilarating and I can see myself doing both in the future. I’ve been thinking about which one feels right, and trying to listen to my gut, but my gut isn’t telling me anything. They’re both careers I’m sure I would love. I’m leaning towards fighter pilot because I don’t want to be in a lot of debt from med school, plus it takes a long time to become a neurosurgeon. I’m not someone for a very long term goal, I tend to make decisions in the moment and according to whatever I want to do presently, so what if I change my mind half way through med school? I’ve always put this decision aside, but I’m starting to run out of time. I don’t know what to do, fighter pilot or neurosurgeon?
I am stuck between two career choices. I am in decent government job in India which is relaxing not much work pressure and an example of perfect work life balance but since practically there is no learning i dont like it. On the other hand i have an offer from a decent university for Msc Economics. Now i am confused whether is it worth to leave a government job for this course. Becoz at the end , i would prefer government job when i grow old but right now since i am young i wanna learn more and expand my horizons. Please help. I know leaving govt job is a risky choice but i am afraid i might regret my option of studying Msc Economics too.
Hi, I’m a 10th grade student, going on to 11th grade. The beginning of last year, I was interested in studying culinary arts because I thought it was cool, and it really fascinated me. Then, a few weeks ago, I did a really in-depth study of what it’s like to be a chef, and found that it is highly stressful and working long hours, even on weekends. I really value hard work, but I also value a good work/life balance. So I decided maybe I’ll be a cafe cook, since they usually get weekends and holidays off. I also dream of living and working in Ireland, as I am really fascinated by their culture. I also found out that there’s been a shortage of cooks there, so it was perfect, right? I, then found out that they don’t usually get paid a lot. I also found out that apparently most Irish employers are looking for individuals who are highly skilled like IT engineers, nurses, doctors, software developers, and people who have a degree in computer science can more than 50% of the time land a job. I also found out that they mainly look for foreigners who are skilled in these areas. So, I had second thoughts about being a cook. My dad is a computer programmer, and he is very educated in computer science, and he thought me the basics of programming, which is logics, and is used by many software engineers, programmers, web developers, etc. I thought, with these skills, I could land a job in Ireland as simple as that. I also don’t want to pick one yet because I have to think about the college courses these offer, because once I make a decision, I can’t go back. As a cafe chef, I would work regular 9-5 hours, with weekends and holidays off, but with lower pay and a lower chance of getting hired in Ireland. If I choose computer science, there is plenty of occupations that use those skills with very good pay, and are in demand there, but I’m also betting that they work long hours, and usually on weekends too. I don’t know what career choice to go with, because once I make a decision, that’s the college course I’m going to take, and I’m scared about what it holds for my future dream. So should I go with going to culinary school and pursue my chef job with a nice work/life balance, and risk not getting a job in my dream country? Or go with computer science, which probably takes a lot of focus, but I’ll be able to land a job quickly there, but I have no clue on the work/life balance it has?
hello!!!my name is harsh and i am 14
i had stucked between two amazing carrers one is software enginner and another one actor….i am confused please help
Hi, I’ve just happened across your website. I have been a ballet dancer since I was 5 (I’m now 15), I’ve been doing it my whole life and it’s all I’ve ever wanted to do. The other day I fell in rehearsal and dislocated my knee, tore my connective tissue, ruptured muscles, the works. I’m now stuck between doing rehab, intensely training and getting back to ballet and pursuing that (which is a very slim chance of actually making it into a company) and risking injuring myself again, or I can go back to my school I was at (before I left when I was 13 to train in ballet fulltime). The school is a private school I absolutely love that all my siblings have gone to, all my friends are there, my boyfriend, there are countless opportunities and it’s an amazing school. I could go there for the rest of senior school (grade 11 and 12) and then pursue law or psychology or any of the other 100 things I’ve wanted to do other than ballet, or put in the work and return to ballet. My problem is I love ballet and I know I’d miss it so much, but I don’t know if I should go through all the rehab or just call it here and head back to school? I’m honestly so worked up by it, I have no idea what I want. The only downside I see to school is that I wouldn’t be dancing all day like I am now. Please, any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thankyou so much,
Hi i dont Know which carrier to choose to be a doctor or a programmer plz help i m dying right now
So here the deal.
I have two options on the table for me. On one hand I currently have a job that is 40hrs a week and pays the bills and is a low end grocery delivery driver. My Wife is a bookkeeper and owns her own business. Currently the business she is running is in need of a Salesman and without that salesman it is likely to sink as it is just a startup.
I have alot of experience in sales and have always been quite successful when I know my product. I guess that I know that reason dictates that I stay with the constant pay just in case her business goes down but I know i have the skills to help her.
What should I do?
I have just recently finished my tenth grade and I’ve passed well enough to get me to the next grade but not the way I would have wanted .When it came to choosing my subject at the bigining of this year I did not choose based on what I liked to do and enjoy I chose subjects that are considered to be bit hard(maths and science ), maybe it’s because I like a challenge.
I’ve always wanted to be a doctor since I was young but as I grew older I came to the realisation of that my mind is not capable enough( I’m not intelligent enough to be a doctor). So I ended up settling for something less difficult- Electrical Engineer.
The problem here is that I did not perform well in maths and science and for me to able to enrol in a University (college) for Electrical Engineering I need to have passed maths and science well in high School.I don’t know if I should change my subjects next year and do something that will actually be good at? .I don’t want to do that because that means will also have to change the career choice I had previously made of Electrical Engineering .
Or I should just work hard in these two remaining years of my high school life and just hope I improve.
Please help 🙁
Hello my name is Betania I’m a senior in High school and am in a dilemma. I can’t choose between studying to be a paramedic or a vet tech. I am in need of some guidance to find what to choose.
I’ve gotten myself into a pickle. I’ve worked six years (mostly happily) in the environmental science field. I have done well at my jobs but as someone who struggles with anxiety and ADHD, I tend to struggle with computer bound work, lack of structure and decision making. I have loved the entry level environmental jobs, but almost any career advancement puts me at a desk forever. Because of this, I started considering physical therapy. Long story short, I applied to graduate programs in PT and water resources and got accepted to everything. There are pros and cons to each but they are so different. PT has more job security, structure, higher salary, flexible hours for potential family BUT also over $100k price tag on school, no outdoor work, potential for monotony. An MS aligns more with my past experiences, interests, and would be fully funded (plus stipend), but with less job security, limited job options, less structure and likely less pay if I find a job. Because of the amount of time I’ve been away from school, it’s now or never for both programs (especially PT, considering the debt). I have no idea how to decide. I’ve shadowed, interviewed, visited schools, flipped coins, tried to listen to my gut (which changes daily), had others weigh in, etc… HELP!!!!!!
Robbie Collins says
Hi my names Robbie collins. I’m currently in a tie between a Singer songwriter & a WWE Superstar. I need help deciding which one to do .
Meghan Cox says
Hey! So idk what to do!!! I can’t decide between being an actress of some sort or a counselor.
So my name is Amal and i am from SL small island in the indian ocean, I am stuck with 2 choices, Music and Racing or just a normal life with some job along the lines of engineering mostly related to electronics and computer or automobile manufacture and something like that. I am stuck please help ! I love cars but what i love the most is music and automobile manufacture is fun and interesting and related to racing. Music doesn’t pay good and i am afraid i might not be good enough, i am terrified of failure in that department, people say i am good, 1 or 2 people have meh ! mostly people say um good true story. Racing i am a big fan and I drive fast really fast for out country conditions, In-fact my favorite thing that i did most of the time in my early days when um sad or mad or need a break is i drive fast and sing in my car. If you can provide me with some help as to how to choose that would be a big favor, Music has been a big part of my life, i cant explain how but sometimes my life actually i stayed sane because of it in early days. The feeling when i sing, its just, in-explainable i get so calm so relaxed and i feel every moment of it .
If you can help me
I hold a Bsc.in electronics & Automation eng and CIMA.now Im wondering what I should be doing: a master’s in medical physics or applied statistics.i don’t know what to choose between these two.I wonder what’s the best option for me to succeed.
I recently graduated from my high school and now I am stuck. I do not know what I want to do. I really like human biology, but I am not sure medical is the right path for me. Many of the councellors I have been to suggested me to opt for Psychology as they feel that is something which is good for me based on the aptitute test and sessions I had with them.
I am from India and I have recieved an offer to study Psychology from two uni abroad. I want to go out my comfort zone, study hard, make new friends and enjoy. But what if Psychology is not for me? Sometimes I have a feeling what if I should do medicine? While other times I am like no it is not for me. I do not know why but I am super confused. What if I do not like the subject while studying abroad? Then all my parents money will go to waste(studying abroad is very expensive). For med I have not prepared anything as I was not sure. Talking to other (my parents, friends, well-wishers) makes my mind more puzzled. I know they want good for me but that does not help.
Right now from few months I am not doing anything because I am so confused… Sorry for such a long post, just wanted to let the feelings out.
I will finish my undergraduate computer science degree in December of this year. I have loved and practically breathed computer science my entire college career, and it’s been amazing. I’m interning at Microsoft this summer, for my sixth internship. If I choose some other path, I feel like I would be throwing all my incredible progress away, especially in regards to potential compensation and job security.
However, computer science has not been my dream for my entire life. In high school and my entire life before that, I was obsessed with natural sciences, like biology, ecology, environmental science, etc. I even was looking at colleges from that perspective. The only reason I tried computer science and found that I loved it was due to my mom, who is a software engineer. I still spend my spare time learning natural sciences, and every time I think about being a software developer like my computer science degree would get me, my childhood image of being a scientist studying the natural world tugs at my heart.
Yet, if I were to go to graduate school for biology, I would be leaving my progress in my career and my current life behind. I’m a Girl Scout troop leader and spend lots of time volunteering with children. I’ve even considered an alternate path of getting a Master’s in education so that I can open a school, because I love working with children so much and I know that so many children could benefit from the kind of school I dream of creating.
In summary, I am choosing between three possible career paths for after I finish my undergraduate degree:
Staying in computer science and being a software developer
Going to graduate school to study ecology and become a scientist
Getting a Master’s in education in order to start learning about starting my own school
What should I do? What should my process be for narrowing down my choice?
Hi my name is Samuel and and am stuck with this two carriers which is pilot(aviation) and mechanical engineering
Hi I’m Elyza I’m 17 gonna be 18 soon, I’m graduating this year and I’m stuck between wanting to be an ASL interpreter not sure to what extent at the moment, a Poet maybe publish a poetry book or two if I can, or traveling the country/world helping people and just experiencing everything I can before I can’t anymore… I’m really confused and all three of the choices make me worried cause they’re not 100% positive for success and I’m worried I’ll fail at all three…
Hello, my name is Jenni and I am in the 7th grade.
Currently, I am torn between two job options: An astrophysicist or an actor. I’ve always had 2 “different personalities” per se, one being very intellectual and the other very outgoing, as seen in the two career choices. I’ve looked into both of these jobs and have discovered that they are, as thought, both of my passions. I’ve always been very interested in space and physics, whereas I’ve also been interested in acting and Shakespeare. I know I’m only 13, but I would like that not to get in the way of my career plans in the future. For both of these career options, I’ve decided I would like to attend Columbia University so both careers would be feasible, but my problem is, which to choose? A personal crossroads I’ve come upon on the journey of “discovering myself,” I’ve come to find that I really want people to know me as the “blank” girl. I always want to be known for something. And for that something–It’s either astrophysics or acting. When I think about a life of me pursuing astrophysics, I think that it would require lots of use of my brain and thinking beyond–which I love to challenge myself to do. When I think of acting, I think of being able to express myself in a way that would be appealing to not only myself but to the world. Both of which I love to do.
Is there anything you can advise me to do/think about?
Hi Jenni, I saw your comment and my jaw dropped because I’m literally in your shoes. I have the same dilemma with the same options. And I’m in 9th grade too. If you figured out what you chose please let me know.
Hi, my name is Peyton and I am a senior in college. I am a chemistry major and am set to graduate in 6 months. I am having trouble deciding between a career in medicine and a career as a chemistry professor. I have already applied to medical schools and have received two interviews (have not been on them yet). I understand that to become a professor, I would need to do a PhD, and I am okay with that. Neither path is short, and I understand that both will take time and commitment. My problem is this: I LOVE chemistry. I love my professors and can see myself doing what they do. I like helping other students and sharing my knowledge and love of chemistry with them. The downside is the low pay for professors, but I don’t want to let that influence my decision too much. Also, I am not sure how many jobs are available and worry that I will have to move far away to a small community college in the middle of nowhere and not be happy in that kind of school. With medicine, the pay is high and I will have a stable career. I think that I would also like this career and would be good at it. I feel that I would have more control over my location. I know I would get to help people and would be challenged academically. But, there would be no more chemistry. I also am having a hard time thinking of backing out of the medicine path because I am already so far in it, and to do the PhD for teaching, I would still need to take the GRE and get new letters of recommendation. I also think I would probably have to take a gap year since I would probably be too late to apply to graduate schools now. I am so conflicted, it’s torture! Please help!
I am Spring and I’m stuck between two of my most desirable careers. Those two careers are Psychologist and a HR Manager. I love psychology but I also love business as my father and mother are both in that line of work.
Megan Proffitt says
I am 21 (22 this weekend. 3/3.). I am a second semester freshman in college. (I had some health stuff that stretched high school out a couple of years). I am currently stuck between wanting to be a LCSW/MSW psychotherapist or a Nurse. I love the medical field. But I have gone through a lot in my life mentally and physically that I believe I would be an exceptional LCSW. I would say from some research LCSWs make less then RNs especially in the beginning. But not always. It just depends on what you do with a LCSW AND, of course I would need to get my MSW. No one in my family actually fully and happily supports social work for me. There are 2 professionals I’m around that do. I 100% know that my mom and everyone in my family supports me going into nursing, (actually, they’d love if I became a physician. But I have ruled that out this semester. It’s just not worth it this day in age. In my opinion.) I am also going to school on 100% student loans. I have already wasted so much time, money, and effort for classes I don’t even need. When I started college I was going for social work. Then I changed it to science/medical laboratory scientist, then med school. Now I don’t want to be a MD and I either want to do nursing or therapy (LCSW/MSW). I can always move up in nursing (whilst working and making money) and I can even become APRN, eventually. My family would support me more and be more proud, maybe. And I’m more certain on the income of an RN+. I also really do love medicine and I have my whole life. But, I love psychology and helping people. I have a LCSW/MSW therapist in my life whom I love and I would want to do exactly what he does. He has an outpatient practice and works on a psychiatric unit of a university hospital. I want to do that (he also makes bank.) I’m just afraid I won’t get to that “level”. I would be able to help people in ways a lot can’t, because of my personal experiences. And I think that’s very valuable. I just need support from those I’m closest to. I know I shouldn’t need it. But, the fact is I really want it. I need approval. I just want to be happy and fulfilled in what I choose. And I don’t want to look back thinking of the “what if’s” in slight regrets.
Uh hi I’m in year 8 (England) and I know I’m a bit young but I don’t have long till I do my gcse options. But that’s not my main problem I’ve already decided my main courses and the career paths but I’m stuck between two. For a long time I’ve wanted to become a animator or at least something close too it but recently this year I had a huge surge of passion for music (I had this when I was younger but I never had alot of thought for it) and now I’m thinking of possibly being a singer. I know being a animator is the more sane option and I still want to do it but singing as a career makes me want to do it so much. And the worst part is I love them both so much equally and I know I could make one a hobby and the other my job but at this point I don’t know how to choose…
Varun Chitturi says
I am 15 and receive grades of around 93-93%. I am torn between pursuing management consulting or corporate law.
I am 14 and receive really good grades, I would love to go into either hairdressing, acting, or aerospace engineering. I have no idea how to decide, because I don’t want to be scared about not having enough money in the future, but I think I would enjoy hairdressing more. Can someone help me decide?
Hi, I am Sam. Age 21 stuck between the family business of optical shop and my dream of being a MakeUp artist. My father has demotivated me many times for my dream. I am now stuck as I have started working with him but from time to time my mind starts thinking about my dream. If it would be good for me to stay in the business or start my own.
Hey, Sam. Don’t ever let your dad — or anyone — keep you from pursuing your dreams! My dad did the same. I realize now, and will pass this on to you, that he was only trying to look out for my financial future/well-being. My dad wanted me to go into computer programming, and I wanted to write books and do art. I was eventually allowed to major in English (that’s another story), but had no guidance afterward. My art could have turned into working in graphic design or something. There’s good money in that. At the time, I didn’t know there was such a thing, and my dad’s generation only thought in terms of “starving artists.” (Though I found out decades later, he’d been in advertising at one point )
So here I am, working in the deli of some grocery store (and hating it) with no solid work experience to put on my résumé, AND I’M 62! I resented his discouragement for years. I do graphic design for a hobby, and only now am I writing my first book.
Don’t position yourself to resent your dad or the family business. Go with your dreams. He can’t see the vision, because it’s your dream; it’s in your mind. No one has to understand. It’s your heart. Be happy. —- Don’t open your own business unless you know how to run one. Get an internship or entry level job in or related to your calling. Maybe you could learn how to run a business while you’re in the family, business and go to classes in Cosmetology?
Alison C. says
Thanks so much for sharing your story and perspective Kathy! -Alison
Same situation here. My mum always insisted I don’t follow dancing or gymnastics to the fullest (despite my obvious talent for it) because “it doesn’t make money”. The older generations only thought in terms of monetary security, not passion. It robbed me of any chance to be in dancing or gymnastics thereafter and I can’t say I’ve gotten over it. It’s painful. But I did other things!
Lena Stark says
I myself am having a difficult time chording between three different jobs. Neurosurgeon, homicide detective, and a robotics engineer. Neurosurgeon, I don’t know, getting into the surgery room, cutting open into the human skin, possibly saving a life! Possibly not. Homicide detective, I have always loved the forensics, the real stuff and the tv shows (which I know sometimes aren’t realistic). All the books I read are murder mystery or something like that. I went to a summer camp about forensics, engineering, and medicine. I really enjoyed the forensics, but also the engineering. Forensics, you get to help in the police to find the killer, the murderer, before he gets to others. I could save lives. Robotics engineering, so that camp I went to, it had robotics engineering, it was robotics, I left that word out before. I’ve always, always loved the idea that you could make something out of what others called trash. I could. I could make things that move, walk, talk! They all mean so much to me, but I have no clue which to go for. And I need.. help!
Siddharth Choksi says
Here is same even hi I am also stuck between two amazing paths, I’m 18 and I can’t decide between Finance and Graphic Design, I try to choose one or the other but if I choose Finance then i’ll start to feel sad that i’ll never be able to pursue being a Graphic designer and vice versa.
I can’t make any decision. I’m 16 and I skipped a grade so that might be a reason why I hesitate that much? I wanna study medecine but I’d also like to have a career into music. I really love both paths. Music is my passion, my reason to live for, I play several instruments and I even try to create my own songs but I also really love medecine, anatomy and police investigations. I’ll take any of your advice.
So I just turned 20 and am currently working at a manufacturing plant. Every since I was a little kid, I’ve ALWAYS wanted to be a game warden. My love for the outdoors was just so strong that’s what I wanted to do. Here recently, being introduced to manufacturing & mechanics, I’m some what interested in being a mechanical engineer. Lots of math classes? Yes, but I’m good at math. (I don’t just like it lol). But they make great salaries and there job opportunities are everywhere! Game warden is a big process, which I know I would crush the physical tests and pass all the background checks with flying colors. I guess I’m just being faced with a douse of reality, salary, availability, and my happiness.
Hello, I’m Karine. I’m probably much older than everyone here by the looks of it – I’m close onto 35. I desperately need advice from a career expert. This is about a career change.
I studied and have experience in translation. I translate German, Greek, Armenian and English. However, this industry has never given me anywhere near a comfortable life as a freelancer. Being freelance, with rusty spoken German since my BA in England, I didn’t have the confidence to apply for any job globally that had to do with German, or move to Germany for a job after my MA in translation almost 4 years ago. Back when I was much younger, I used to be a junior rhythmic gymnastics acrobat on a national level and then I was a fitness coach in London for several years. I kept ping-ponging between fitness and translation, needing stability because I come from an incredibly broken family, but also needing my passion for fitness and caring for others/making a difference.
Now I am at a point where my German is still rusty despite having taken classes to improve wherever I have gaps. I adore the language and understand how it could bring great financial stability, but I also found a new avenue where I can put my fitness skills, care for others and love of the human anatomy to good use – physiotherapy. I’m a real empath and one of those people who can ‘feel’ others. I know I could do a wonderful job.
These are my two sides and always have been – language and fitness-related or health-related stuff. However, thus far, the only fitness qualification I have is a Level 2 to instruct at gyms. I’m still quite fit and healthy for my age too, never fat or whatever, just not super fit anymore.
I can’t decide whether I want to pursue a degree apprenticeship (with all that goes with it – plus the very very low salary) in physiotherapy with the NHS in Scotland (namely Edinburgh) and spend at least 4-5 years working and learning at the same time to become a qualified professional physio, or if I have the guts to go to Germany, Cologne specifically, and teach English while becoming proficient in spoken German again (I’m currently around the B2-C1 level in speech with some gaps here and there) and then take German further by using it in a job – just don’t know what job. And it kind of feels like I’d be doing it for the security and stability money brings. I do love German as a language, it’s up there with my favourites, but I just can’t decide if it will make me happy in the long run.
The thing is, if I choose Germany, inside, I will always say “but what if I’d done physio and stuck to the fitness”, because I know it’s a massive part of what gives my life meaning and makes me feel alive. On the other hand, I have devoted so much of my life so far to language and regaining proficiency in German. I have friends around me saying “oh but don’t forget your German, it’s so useful, you’ll regret not keeping it up”, and others saying “oh you’re totally the physio type, you’ve finally found your calling, awesome, go for it and don’t look back!”
I just need to make the right decision for me, for the future, to be happy but also stable and secure. I’m also the type like some others on here who are really indecisive. Believe me, it can follow you into your 30s if you’re not careful! So now that I have some resources to make the change, I really need to make a good decision. So I look back when I’m old, wrinkly and disgusting at 80 and say “daymnnn, that turned out alright!”
Alison C. says
Thanks for the thoughtful comment! If you were to re-read it imagining the comment was left by someone other than you, can you identify which drive is coming from an internal place and which drive is coming from an external expectation from other people? Which voice matters most to you?
All the best,
Mayank Raj says
I am 22 and i’m stuck choosing career between MBA & MJMC for further studies.I have a passion for writing but ain’t sure about career growth in MJMC while MBA promises a satisfying job with decent income.Plz help me out.
Mayank Raj says
Moreover my parents are hell bent on making me to focus on MBA.
Hi, I’m 16 and I’ve been doing a lot of research and I’m stuck between these two pathways…
* associates degree in Christian ministry (pastoral leadership 2 yrs) along with an Advanced Diploma of Creative Arts in Christian Ministry (songwriting 3 yrs). This would lead me into writing Christian music and leading a church. This is something I’d really love.
*advanced diploma of professional screenwriting (2 yrs) along with a bachelor of film (2 yrs). This would lead me to write and create my own films and tv series. This really appeals to me as a creative person and is something I really love as well.
I feel like I’d be just as happy in either of the 2 fields and it’s hard to ask for peoples input because of peoples bias regarding Christianity, e.g Christians want me to chose the first one, non christians chose the second one. People just choose what they can relate to more.
It’s a very difficult decision, because both pathways require at least 4 years of education after secondary school, so I can’t just change my mind half way through. Experts would obviously have even more bias. I’m stressing because I don’t know what to do. They both matter equally and I don’t have a gut feeling. I’m stuck in between the 2 and it’s not a very good place to be.
What do I do?
Hello, I’m 15 and can’t decide between following a career in music or criminology/criminal justice. I think I would be happy in either field but I have more of a passion for music. I plan on going to college and either one will be for at least my bachelors degree. I still have some time to decide but my high school has classes for both and with my schedule I would only have room to focus on one. Right now I am in show choir but next year I need to decide between the two. Any advice you can give will help and be greatly appreciated.
Hi, like everyone else here, I am at a bit of a crossroads with which career path I would like to pursue. I’m starting 10th grade in the fall and I have yet to pick a few of my classes. I have always wanted to be an author since I was little, and for the past few years I have been more into the journalism aspect of writing. I was so sure this was the path for me, but then I have recently been realizing that I am fascinated by astronomy! I realize that this career path takes a lot more work, but I think that being an astronaut/astronomer would be a great choice for me too. The thing is, I absolutely love the idea of both journalism and astronomy and I really do not know which path to choose. I have done a fair bit of research on both paths and yet I still do not know what to do. I need to decide fairly quickly because there are different options I have for courses I can take, and they are completely different from each other. If anyone can help me out that would be great, thanks.
Hey! I’m only in 8’th grade, but I’ve heard people say that you should start working towards your dream job at high school, so I feel like I need to know now. I’m trying to pick between a career in interior design/decoration and being a veterinarian. I have an equal passion for both, and I could see myself doing both, but I don’t know what to go with. I feel like I have a 50/50 chance of doing either, and I feel split. So, random people of the internet, which should I go with? I’ve loved helping people, and I have an undying love for animals of all kinds, but I also like talking with people and designing spaces!
Hi! I’m entering ninth grade this year and all anyone talks about is college. Since sixth grade, I’ve wanted to be a math teacher. I love math, and I’m good at it, too. The thing is, lately, I’ve been considering becoming a writer or animator. It looks really fun, and I think it would be a good job for me because I have a great imagination and I learn how to use new computer programs quickly. I’ve already taken a few personality tests, but they didn’t really help, and I also did a small amount of research about each career. How do I pick?
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I will be starting my sophomore year of college this fall, and I am pursuing a BS in health with 2 minors is biology and medicine & society. For the majority of my life I thought I want to go to medical school. Doctors always seem so competent and listen to what their patients have to say about themselves. I want to be able to gain an understanding of people I encounter and work with them to form a treatment plan for whatever is bothering them as well as figure out the best way to help them.
Recently I started looking more in depth at a potential MS degree that caught my eye: nutrition. I have gotten into rock climbing, so I started to try and exercise more as well as become more aware of what I eat. It seems to be interesting to learn what certain nutrients do for the body. The main goal of earning a masters in nutrition would be to become a clinical nutritionist. They work directly with patients too in understanding their illness and come up with a treatment plan for them based on nutrients within food.
Both of these choices seem interesting to me, and I told people who care more about prestige/money that I was going to remain on the premed track with a MS in nutrition as a back up. However, I am not even sure if this statement is true. The advantages of being a doctor would of course include more prestige and money, but the educational requirements take long to complete. The pros of being a clinical nutritionist would be a faster education completion of about two years, but I will not get to find out if I ever could have made it as a doctor. Currently I feel that my English skills are stronger than my scientific/math skills. I have to typically work harder in science classes to make grades good enough for med school. On the flip side, I feel more satisfaction when I do well on my more difficult science classes because I felt I learned about multiple processes and the schematics behind them.
Thank you for opening up a comments section and helping out people throughout the years.
I am torn between two completely different jobs.
I’ve always like doing things involving an audience and creating story’s so the first job would have to be a movie director.
Yet I have also had a very big passion for astronomy and would therefore like to become an astronomer.
Nirabhi Srivastava says
Hey, I’m Nirabhi, 19 ,from India. I am totally confused between two career options and through all the above mentioned comments I can clearly realize there are many students like me who are confused between a career related with education and something which is your passion. I’m also stuck between two career options, Hotel Management and Medicine. Though I’m a Biology student, I have an immense love for food and since few years I have always wondered my life being a Chef. But on the other hand, I have even dreamt of becoming Doctor. Sometimes I think Doctor is better, but on the other hand I think being a Chef will be more exciting. I have tried to figure out my confusion through many ways but none of them actually helped. Now is the time I really have to choose a path and can’t wait for long, but with this confusion I don’t want to make a wrong decision and ruin my future. Kindly Help me out if you can.
Hi I’m 17 and I’m having trouble deciding whether to go into sports management and be a pro coach or go into acting what do you think
Emily E. says
I am 14 years old, I am a freshman in High school and my parents are starting to tell me that I need to start thinking about what I would like to pursue as a career. My two major passions are criminal justice and animals. I either want to be a police detective/ Homicide detective or a Vet. These are two very amazing jobs and I have researched both but am still quite unsure of what to pick. I have said for years that I wanted to be a vet but recently I found that I have an interest in Law enforcement.
My mother wants me to be a vet and she told me that she does not want me to be in law enforcement because she thinks that it is too dangerous for me to handle. However, I would rather being doing a job that I like than doing something I am not as interested in. I love animals and I always will but I do not like seeing them hurt so I don’t think being a vet is as realistic for me. I also don’t want to let my mom down and disappoint her because being a detective is rigorous work and a lot to handle but I am willing to take that risk.
My dad is not happy with the more dangerous job I am interested in but he is still supportive of it and He says to me that I should do what I want. I also know that if I start taking high school electives for it that my mother will probably pull me out of those classes and I do not want that to happen. Please help me… I have searched and searched and searched for ways to get around this and have had no luck, you are my last hope and I have read how you have helped many people choose something. I hope all is well!!! 😀
Alison C. says
Thank you for your thoughtful comment! Making a career decision is a big deal, and it can be hard to do when you don’t have a lot of context. What I mean by that is that you likely have an idea in your head about what it would be like to be a detective or a vet, but you don’t have direct experience to base these ideas on. Talking to people in the field or volunteering are ways to give your brain more information and experience. You particularly want to see how you respond when you’re in the work environment. Are you engaged? Are you interested in learning? Do you feel enthusiasm or dread around different activities?
The only other thing I’ll note is that it sounds like there’s a lot of pressure around making this decision NOW. Can you dial that back a bit and give yourself room to explore first?
Remember that careers are long and varied. Instead of focusing as much on getting the right answer, make the best decision you can with the information you’ve got. You’ll get more experience over time, and then you’ll get the opportunity to make different choices based on that experience. It’s not a one shot deal.
Hope that helps, and best wishes!
I don’t know if anyone will ever read this, but please do. I need help. I am deciding whether to become a video game designer or a wildlife biologist. I know those sound like little kid dream jobs, but I’m 18 and I’ve actually been carefully thinking this out. Being a video game designer would use my art and coding skills, make a really good salary, and I have always liked video games so I think it would be a good fit. However, I’m not thrilled by the idea of working at a desk all day, I need to move. Being a wildlife biologist pays less well, and there are about 1/3 as many jobs. But I have always loved animals and studying animals out in the wild would be more active and really interesting. I am also doing really well in the intro biology class I’m taking this semester.
I love the idea of both careers, but I’m not sure which one to choose, and I have to choose a college major by next fall.
Alison C. says
Please see my recent response to Emily E. as it is applicable to your situation.
Best wishes with your career!
I am in a terrible dilemma as to which career option to choose for my graduation. I have to apply for college in 2 months
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I’m 15 years old and stuck between 3 completely different jobs. I either want to be a cardiologist, surgeon, or a marine biologist. I have been studying marine biology in my spare time recently, but I used to do the same for Cardiology. I also find surgery and diagnosis very interesting. I know I have a lot of time to decide but I would like to know what I want to do so I can plan the next three years of high school accordingly.