I wasn’t fulfilled professionally, and I was worried about the financial viability of my aspirations. I was struggling to develop a sense of self. And I was lonely. I wanted a romantic companion. My confidence was sorely lacking.
I didn’t know who to be in order to be myself and to be loved and a part of my community. I wanted to live my truth, but I didn’t know if that would be a secure place. (It can be pretty scary.)
I wasn’t growing at work and had no desire to grow within that space. That was that as a sign that something was wrong. I felt stagnant. I was too young to plateau. I didn’t know what would excite or motivate me to learn, grow, and stretch. I just knew it wasn’t what I was doing it. I wanted to belong somewhere and to feel loved.
To feel isolated and drained at work is not desirable. We spend so much time at work.
Coaching is a lot like therapy. It’s not so much interview skills. It’s more about the broader picture. It helped me with those intangible things that hold you back, the ways you get in your own way and hold yourself back. It kept me accountable. When you’re looking to make changes, a supportive community helps you do that. Also paying helps, because I didn’t want to waste that money. It made me feel less alone. I got a new perspective or saw a new strength. It always made me feel better.
I kept working on seeds planted from the coaching work. I pushed myself to go to networking events, which was terrifying at first, and then it became painless. I can now go up to strangers and start up a conversation. Dressing well helped too, the “fake it ‘til you make it” idea.
Building my confidence helped me to leave the city and try something new. I believed I could get a new job and got one. I got my act together personally too. I met an amazing man and got married.